Friday, June 11, 2010

I like fat chicks too, and I've dated several, ranging from barely chubby to over 400 pounds. However, even among those who consider themselves BBW, I've yet to meet one who was really confident or comfortable with herself. Why do you suppose it is that some women who are knee-deep in fat acceptance culture STILL don't really accept their bodies?

-Studly Bo

Because fat acceptance culture isn't the culture at large. In the real world, it sucks to be fat, and no one, not even thin people, have nerves of steel. Fat acceptance culture is great for letting people know there's an option of acceptance, that there are people besides your own self-confidence who will validate your beauty, that there are men and women who are physically attracted to you or desire your body type. Sadly that only goes so far.

6 comments:

  1. Honestly, since he said he has NEVER met a woman truly confident in her body, this makes me wonder about the asker more than anything.
    Unfortunately, a lot of completely socially inept guys like to use the "you must not be confident in your body" excuse when they get rejected. I once had a guy ask me (30 seconds after the first "hello" he had ever said to me) to describe my enormous ass. When I ignored him, he said "Oh, you must not be confident in your body. I promise you, there really are guys out there that like fat women just fine." No shit, really?! Asshole. I'm plenty confident. You're just a social retard.

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  2. True of course, but he said he dated them (not sure how successfully), so I'm not sure that's the same as rejection off the bat for ineptness.

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  3. the same range of social 'eptitude', from centered and confident to boneheaded basketcase, applies for FAs the same way it does to the society in general.

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  4. Also, I read a women's fat acceptance blog sometimes, and though I've gotten my share of street harassment as a woman, I was truly boggled by the number of women 300 lbs. and up who had experienced multiple incidents of heavy things being thrown at them from moving cars while the cars occupants yelled, "Hey, fat bitch!"

    It's hard to maintain constant confidence in the face of a world like that, even if you do spend as much time as you can in a welcoming subculture.

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  5. fat girls are definatly the worse thing to 'do'

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  6. I have to wonder about the person asking as well. I am a big woman and all my BBW friends are ALL superconfident about themselves and are just as sexually active as their skinny friends... in fact I only had one skinny friend who was more active than me before I started to settle down. Maybe HE'S making them feel less confident, I dated a guy like that once.

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