Friday, January 30, 2009

Why are more older men attracted to big women than guys in their 20s?


In high school, forget it. The unlikelihood of meeting a fat admirer coupled with one ready to allow himself the public humiliation coupled with (believe it!) fat girls saying no to protect themselves from the sadly good odds that it's a joke. Forget it.

Why are more older men attracted or why do more older men admit it? They've presumably evolved beyond the need for approval that gets the upper caste through high school and college and will date you. Sometimes they're scared and settling. Sometimes as a result of maturity they're less picky. But a bunch are genuine chubby chasers, either finally ready to admit it or just realizing. It's either a relaxing of standards or acquiring a taste. And if they've always been into fatties, it means their balls have finally dropped.

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Why does it seem like white guys aren't attracted to black BBWs, unless it is just for sex?


Speaking strictly in stereotypes, they have nothing in common with their objects of desire. Or at least they think. To cite some anonymous dickbrains from a black chick thread on the infamous BBWchan boards:

"older fat black girls like late 20's and 30's are nicer than late teens or early 20's cause they think they are all that n shit. talking from experience"

"I do know what you're saying. I talk to a lot of late-20's/30's-age black women on account of how friggin' hot I find them and most of them are actually quite easy to get along with and engage in conversation. (I'm white.)"

I also found a bit of armchair sociology: "The reason I don't get excited about black BBW is because there are so many of them in real life."

Watching too much Flavor of Love 2 will do that I guess. Even with a black president, a good portion of white America does not know how to approach black people and start a conversation.

Or as another poster said: "Most cannot handle the awesomeness that are black BBWs. As a white male, I absolutely adore them. Nothing gets me going like a set of big chocolate tits and ass to suck and lick on."

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Why are big girls expected to be okay and HAPPY to use their weight during sex, such as facesitting and squashing? Speaking for myself, I'd prefer the kind of sex that would be asked of me if I were skinny.


Then you should lose the weight, Lyric, because you're in for a bummer of a life. Fat sex is had with fat bodies. Those qualities that make you fundamentally different from thinnies are what attract chubby chasers to you in the first place. If thinsex is what you seek...the extra flexibility or a partner who can lift you up and fuck you against a wall, you want to slim down. Big girls are expected to be happy at anything, not just sex, because only perverts want to fuck someone who isn't confident. Your weight is what you have so, at least for the time being, you should use it. Thin people do facesitting too, you know. If you don't want to squash, you should find a more dominant partner, as squashees are usually submissive and want that ultra-confident goddess type to pummel them with her weight and physical power. If you don't decide to lose the weight, you're stuck with what you got, and since any fat admirers you'll be fucking will love it, you might as well learn to as well. Find creative ways to use those crevices and wobbly bits, enjoy the uniqueness of it. Guys with small dicks wish they could have sex like guys with big dicks, you know? At least you're afforded the gym option.

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Why is an attraction to big women considered a fetish instead of a preference, such as a woman preferring tall men to short or someone preferring blondes to brunettes? And why do some guys have no problem saying their attraction to big women is a fetish?


Because they're idiots? Fat is marginalized by society as a negative, so maybe in that sense it counts as taboo but it's certainly a preference. I would go as far as to claim it's almost a different orientation in itself, which may anger some of my queer friends, but the physical disparities between say, a 400 lb. person and a 140 lb. partner and what an admirer seeks from either is just that rhetorically different. If anyone grumbles, I'd like a casual fan of 400 lb. partners to pipe up. There are fat-related fetishes, and plenty of ways to fetishize body parts themselves, but just dating and fucking fatties in itself is certainly a preference. I split the line of fetish and preference socially; preferences you tell your friends and colleagues openly and nonchalantly, as you would discuss a predilection for blondes. Fetishes you only tell your closest confidantes, if that. And in that regard, plenty of FAs fetishize it themselves by hiding it.

Monday, January 26, 2009

Yo, Guy who likes fat chicks.

Is the attraction to fat girls based purely on the looks, or do you find fat chicks have a certain something else to them on the personality front? Or is a mix of the two?

A fatty who overthinks things.

They have more in the front, period. Um...the folklore you know, "they're better in bed because they're desperate," "give better head cuz they're hungry," and most plausibly "forced to develop a personality and good sense of humor early on to compensate" all make sense in theory and guarantee nothing. Even the one sticking point I came up with, that they'd all have to be pro-fat at least, crumbles because so many of them hate themselves. There are plenty of fat girls I have time for and plenty I can't stand. So they're just like anyone else. I'm in it for the rolls.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Here's a tough one, if fat is more valued in certain racial/ethnic cultures, then why is there this cultural trope out there that suggests black men prefer fat white women over fat black women?


Let's remove an integer - fat - from both sides of the equation, and we have "Why do black men prefer white women over black women," a stereotype that (surprise!) isn't true. But it's certainly such a meme that Chuck D satirized it in Public Enemy's acute "Pollywanacracka" nineteen years ago, and more recently Kanye in his devious 2005 hit "Gold Digger." It looks like the usual stupidity of "personal research" spread by Sherlocks who were replaced with a white woman at one point in their lives. Like being mugged by a black dude and concluding something new and misguided about black people, this stuff never holds water and people mostly just want to leave ugly experiences behind with the rationale that they at least Learned Something. Plenty of times the opposite is true. Stereotypes are steeped in fear, obviously, and in this case the fear is likely a class divide, as Kanye suggests, that successful black men by this logic consider white women to be an echelon they've ascended to. Or even uglier, Chuck D citing it as a monetary thing.

Lastly, Butch provided a citation if you care to seek it out, that deals with the "fat" aspect, namely a study proving what most people already think (hey, some stereotypes are correct!), that African-Americans are kinder to fat asses than Anglos. But she's quick to note, "overall their size preference for women was no more than a few inches larger than the preferences of white men (the study used college aged men and women, white and black, all straight, to find out what their body preferences were)." That's probably accounted for by the usual majority preferring fitter partners combined with the timid presence of vocal (re: closet) fat admirers.

The study is:
Jackson, Linda A., and Olivia D. McGill. “Body Type Preferences and Body Characteristics Associated with Attractive and Unattractive Bodies by African Americans and Anglo Americans.” Sex Roles 35.5/6 (1996): 295-307.

Thanks, Butch!

EDIT: A reader found the study archived online here but missing the numbers. Thanks Jon Blaze!

Sunday, January 11, 2009

Hey Aguywholikesfatchicks,

What's the deal with all this fruit business? Why DO straight male FAs seem to like pear shapes soooo much? I get it, but I don't get it. Know what I mean?


This is not an uncommon grumble from fatties lacking in phatties. First: apples are fruits too! To the uninitiated, fat admirers and fatties alike refer to their body types or preferences by a lookalike fruit even more than the average women's magazine. Apple, pear, calabash squash...and like thinnies we have breast men, ass men...except with more kinds. Belly men, thigh guys, even elbow dimple fiends. Follow a BBW message board long enough and you will notice a vocal prerequisite towards pear shapes, and any thinnie (excepting T-Pain of course) knows about the hormonal majority's overarching desire for more T and A. But why is that?

I spoke with Joe Doyle (Joe D. from Vh1's The Pickup Artist), now a "professional pickup artist" himself, about a factor called "replication value" that may answer your question:

"Men and women both key in on very specific attraction switches," Doyle says. "It's evolutionary psychology dealing with survival and replication value. Women key in on survival value. Evolutionarily speaking, if a woman gets pregnant she will want to align herself with a man that will provide her child with the highest percentage of survival. Men key in on replication value. When a woman with big boobs and large hips walks by men will automatically look even if they aren't into that. Big boobs and large hips are physical traits that convey high replication value. This is why we see young women with older men, these men have the means to provide for these women and therefore these 'trophy wives' are attracted to men twice their age."

If this is correct, there's less probability of finding a belly/apple man because so many of us are hardwired to stare at T & A. But I wouldn't fret; fat admirers wouldn't be fat admirers without a healthy appreciation for the gut, and if girls with small boobs can get by in the equally T&A-obsessed thin dating world you will too.

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Dear askaguywholikesfatchicks,

Let me ask the obvious: Why do you like fat chicks? If we're going to start somewhere, it might as well be here.

a fat chick

Why, I'm so glad you asked. But the answer is I-don't-know. It's the same I-don't-know that pubescent boys will tell you after waking up strangely soaked from a night of dreaming about...I don't know, Ashley Tisdale. Or a young bud just discovering how much he likes to suck cock. Or an ambitious size queen taking on her first double penetration. MySpace banners and romanticized memes and in a better world bumper stickers may tell you otherwise...there's "more cushion for the pushin" or "more to love" or that it's softer, more to squeeze, etc. (Which is all true) But the reality is that at some point my body started telling me bigger is beautiful. This is not the norm, but hardly an anomaly. With the convenience of my generation's internet availability, I learned earlier than most that I wasn't alone and dispensed with motives to hide or deny my preference. Having had a few years of experience and wild lovemaking, I can assuredly say I like them best because they give me free calendars.

The real question is why are so many fat admirers in denial. I can't tell you how many guys (or gals) there are like me, and a good portion of them being in the closet makes the numbers even fuzzier. People like the guy who was ready to take my 300 lb. friend's virginity but not to introduce her to his not help themselves, to put it mildly. You see, the way it works is that the more of us that make it known that "um, actually I don't think fat=ugly," the less abnormal your friends would think you. Over half the U.S. is considered DUN DUN "overweight." Someone's fucking all the fatties*. Be a sport and let them know.

*contrary to popular belief, it's not me